By Randy and Debbie Stroman
There’s an old song that begins, “Those were the days, my friend, we thought they’d never end…” That line captures a familiar feeling for many couples who find themselves in a painful season of marriage. When conflict, distance, frustration, or disappointment begins to surface, it’s common to look backward and remember a simpler time. A time when love felt easy. When laughter came naturally. When just being together was enough.
We hear couples say it often: “I just want to get back to where we were.” In other words: “I just want to feel happy again.”
But here’s the hard truth—and the hopeful truth: You don’t need to go back. You need to move forward.
The marriage you are experiencing today didn’t happen overnight. It didn’t break down in a single moment. It didn’t shift because of one argument or one disappointment.
Today’s marriage is the result of seeds planted long ago—often during the very season you now look back on as “the good years.” Those early years felt happy, yes—but hidden beneath that happiness may have been:
- Unspoken expectations
- Untreated wounds
- Unhealthy communication patterns
- Misaligned priorities
- Beliefs about marriage that didn’t come from God’s design
Those seeds were growing quietly, often without notice. And the drift was so gradual that most couples don’t realize something is wrong until the crisis moment hits. And by then, it feels overwhelming.
So, when someone says, “I just want to go back,” they don’t realize: Where you were is what led you to where you are. Trying to return there would only repeat the same patterns and produce the same pain at some point in the future.
We Don’t Help Couples Go Back. We Help Them Begin Again.
At Your Great Marriage, we don’t focus on returning to the past. We focus on uncovering what has been out of alignment with God’s plan—and replacing it with truth, healing, and practical skills that lead to lasting closeness and joy.
- We help couples see where unhealthy beliefs shaped unhealthy behaviors.
- We help them dig up old roots that have been choking out connection.
- And we guide them to plant new seeds—of honesty, unity, respect, intimacy, and grace.
This is not about fixing a marriage. It’s about rebuilding it—on the foundation God intended from the beginning.
And This Isn’t Just for Crisis Couples
If you’re married, you have a marriage to maintain. Just like your health, your finances, your spiritual life, and your career—marriage requires intentional investment. Waiting until you are in crisis means trying to repair the ship after it has already hit the iceberg.
Our marriage intensive and coaching experiences are designed to help couples at any stage:
- Couples in crisis who feel hopeless
- Couples doing well who want to stay strong
- Couples somewhere in the middle who know something’s “off” but can’t name it
Every marriage has seeds—some that need to be nourished, and some that need to be removed.
Your Future Marriage Can Be Better Than Your Best Past Memory
Instead of longing for the days that used to be, imagine what God can restore, renew, and rebuild in your marriage starting today.
Because with the right seeds, planted with intention and love:
- Trust can be rebuilt.
- Intimacy can be restored.
- Communication can become safe again.
- Friendship can grow deeper than ever before.
- And joy can return—real joy—not just a memory of it.
And so, in the spirit of another song: “Happy days are here again.” And this time—when your marriage is built on truth, unity, and God’s design—they are here to stay.
If you’re ready to begin, we are here to walk with you. Your great marriage is possible—because God designed it that way.
We offer a truly unique Two-Day Marriage Transformation training that helps couples unlock the potential they’ve always had. Through one-on-one coaching, we share biblical principles and proven tools you and your spouse can use to turn capacity into ability — and ability into lifelong marriage transformation. Don’t settle for surviving your marriage. With the right training, you can thrive.
Learn more about our Two-Day Marriage Intensive and start building the relationship you’ve always hoped for.